"And here we do not quarrel with the husband at
all" — the girlfriend is praised to you. "Some are lucky!" —
with envy you think. But, most likely, your acquaintance dissembles. However
something nevertheless should learn from her. For certain, a secret of their
exclusively friendly family that they are able not to turn five-minute quarrel
into seven years' war. Made a noise a little concerning some trifle and forgot:
it seems, and quarrel any was not. And as not to quarrel with the husband?
Quarreled – do not delay a truce!
Squabbled and told each other of mucks in a rush of
emotions? To whom does not happen! But here to say elementary
"forgive" sometimes oh as it is difficult. Right there you remember
the pride and the principles and with insult blow sponges: "The one who
began the first, and the one who is really wrong, and it not I has to apologize!"
To wait that the conflict will be solved in itself without your participation,
is not necessary. The outcome of quarrel can be absolutely unpleasant if in
time not to take a measure. If your husband often is in business trips, it will
be useful to learn how to meet the husband from business trip of the house.
Nursed a grievance?
You stubborn sat down in a corner and do not wish to
take the first step to reconciliation? Think of to what results your
uncompromising stand can lead.
To keep in itself offense, first of all, it is
unhealthy!
It is unpleasant to be at odds not only, but also it
is impractical. Only present: you urgently were required to hammer or hang up a
nail a shelf. Better you should not do it, and to use a request as the first step
to reconciliation.
If in time not to reconcile, trifling quarrel every
day will turn into the irreparable conflict and can become the reason of a
large crack in the relations.
10 councils how to live in peace and friendship.
For certain during quarrel you were visited by
thoughts: "It began everything, he let also apologizes" or "I
before it will not be humiliated". Dear women, you remember that the first
step is taken not necessarily by the one who is guilty, but that who is strong
spiritually and morally. And it is most often not our strong half.
Think whether you value the darling, but a little
quarreled husband? Whether comfortably to you to be with it on different sides
of barricades? If the answer is obvious – to conclude a truce let's go.
If after all your arrogance rebelled, remember an
aphorism of the great humanist Gandhi "Ability to forgive – property
strong. Weak never forgive".
If the beloved husband does not want to be reconciled,
persist in any way is not necessary! You took the first step to reconciliation
with the husband, having shown that you value the relations.
Signing the peace treaty, quietly listen to the point
of view of each other and try to discuss why there was a conflict and as to
avoid it in the future.
Be able to admit the guilt and, having come to a way
of reconciliation, do not rush phrases: "All the same I was right!"
It will allow you to endure quarrel with advantage.
You quarrel together, so – and to halve fault. Do not
reproach each other and give chance everything to correct.
Some begin to remember old offenses to let know to the
opponent: you are guilty. Be not vindictive, otherwise quarrels will repeat
around.
Do not implicate in quarrel of the third parties.
By all means solve that problem which became the cause
of conflict, otherwise quarrel will inevitably repeat.
And then you use mutual words of charge again: "You again …",
"Well how many to you to say that …", and they are faithful mongers
of the conflicts.
You remember – quarrels an integral part of
matrimonial life. To avoid them it will hardly turn out, and here the nobility
how to reconcile with the husband after quarrel that the saved-up offenses did
not spoil the relation in your family.
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